It's your life. You decide what you're going to do with it.  If you don't run your own life, someone else will. You're in control of your life to the degree that you make decisions.

To control the outcome of anything, you control the action at the point of decision making.  If you let others make decisions for you, you give up control.  When you control the decisions, you control the actions.

Take charge of your life, so there is no longer a need to ask permission of others.  Council is one thing, but when you ask permission you're giving someone "veto" power over your life.

Only you are responsible for your life.  Take control and start making those decisions.